Help! I’m Stuck in a Taylor Swift Album!

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Since Taylor Swift came to market with her catchy tunes, and heart breakingly true lyrics, I’ve joked that she was reading from my diary (along with every other girl in the world).

However, the joke is over and now I’ve been trapped in her album.

With every growing fling I can feel myself being pulled towards another song. And while I enjoy the constant sound track to my love life enough is enough.

I’m tired of being able to predict the outcomes of my courtships, or ex-ships for that matter, already knowing the point when things will start going sour. Seeing the pain points brought to light by the tall blonde are just making me miserable in the beginning (though I was hoping my anti-anxiety pills would let me stop being anxiety girl –  giving me the ability to jump to the worse conclusions possible at a seconds notices – sadly TSwift’s lyrics cause me to put my cape back on).

So I’m asking to be pulled out of my T-Swift funk. I want to leave her album and move on to something more uplifting, something more about  she-woman power and less about the men who I opt to date.

While I love my Swifty-poo I’m just over the stage of endless dating to find the person who might make me feel like they are “Mine.” I’m tired of constantly always getting back together with the wrong person, of burning pictures (plus the fire department isn’t a fan of that) and I’ve exhausted my revenges plots on the men who leave me for someone else (okay I don’t really do that, I just go back to them instead).

What I’m trying to get at is that I’m done with being 22 (for about a year and a half ago now actually) and am ready for a different album to be my ear worm. T-Swift will always have a special place in my heart that, like Adele, is reserved for break ups, but currently with this new stage in my life I need a new album to wander through – preferably one that has nothing to do with men and the lack of relationships I’m hoping to find in the upcoming months.

Sorry girl, but it’s time for me to fly solo for a bit and though I know you wish I would stay, stay, stay, I have to go, go, go.

Perhaps old school Destiny’s Child will be getting a call soon…after all I am a momma who profits dollahs.

How to Decide What You Want to Do

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One of the questions we all face after completing one stage in our life it’s “what do we want to do next?” Obviously, I’m facing this now. I gave a month’s notice to my job  last week with no potential job  in hand and am heading into the scary and unknown world of unemployment.

What do I want to do next is the question that haunts my nightmares.

There are two things I know, one is that I want to do something that betters people’s lives. Since heart surgeon is out of the question (I have a minor fear of blood) it’s been a trying time to figure out what it is that I want to end up doing. The other thing is I’ve lost my passion, I’ve been hopping from passion to passion for years now and while I continue to come back to writing I’m nervous it’s not strong enough to pull me into a career of that (I see this while writing two books…so maybe I’m just being dumb).

I was talking with a coworker about this the other day though, and she said something that stuck with me “Go with your skills, not your passion.” Think about it? What is more consistent in  people’s lives, your skills. Yes they can always improve, but for the most part you won’t suddenly lose them – knock on wood. But your passion changes with the wind, just yesterday I was contemplating being an astronaut - okay maybe I just considering going on a one way trip to mars.

Basically, what I’m getting at is passion change, skills improve. If you want a job work on making your skills better, become irreplaceable  If you pick a career with the skill set your most proud of you’re bound to enjoy what you’re doing. If you pick something your passionate about now, you may find yourself in a completely different place within the year.

So how do you decide your next move? Look at what you’re good at. Chances are you’re good at it for a reason – and you’ve obviously developed those skills for a reason too – go into something where those skills can shine. Then become irreplaceable, because once you’re irreplaceable it’s hard not to find passion in something.

Attractive Never Looked So Ugly: A Note to the CEO of Abercrombie & Fitch

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The face of the “in-crowd.”

First off, congratulations Mike Jeffries you finally have people talking about Abercrombie & Fitch. A brand most ignore in the mall for fear of choking to death on the horrible perfumes that are smothering your clientele.

Personally I have never shopped in your stores. Being someone who was never part of the “in-crowd” (or a size two) had little to do with that, rather the loud booming music, darkened store front, and uninventive clothing are what turned me off.

I prefer the interesting, and lasting, clothing from your competitors H&M and American Eagle – both of which I’m sporting today. Not only do they prove to outlast your clothing (in comparison to my friends, who were not in the “in-crowd” but wore your polos) they also create an inviting atmosphere to shop in.

Maybe it’s just me who likes talking with friends while shopping though? Maybe the “in-crowd” prefers to quietly shop and purchase your overly priced T-Shirts with your name stamped across their chest?

Like I said, never part of the “in-crowd” so I wouldn’t know. Please feel free to fill me in though.

While I hate you as a person I commend your business model. Exclusive is something most strive for, and you’re clearly at the top of your game with it.

However, if you’re going to make a fuss about how you only want attractive people supporting your brand maybe, as the CEO you should work on your face a bit more. The Botox, and botched lip and nose job are making you more of a freak show attraction than a loveable popular kid. Though, no matter how attractive surgery makes you, you (and your clothes) will still be ugly to me.

I Quit My Dream Job

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I quit what I thought was my dream job yesterday.

After struggling for a month and a half to force myself to love both the highs and lows I decided to leave. With a heavy heart I wrote my brief resignation letter and waited until 4:30pm to discuss with my director the next steps moving forward.

It’s not a decision I made lightly. I had been in talks with him since March to find a different place within the company, something that involved more creative duties. But alas (yes I just wrote alas) there was nothing that fit my needs and theirs.

After a job proposal, an internal interview, and over a month and a half since admitting to both myself and the company that I wasn’t happy my journey here is finally over.

I’ve avoided writing about my struggles with this company for a while, but I think it’s important to fully address it now.

As I’ve mentioned in the past I have issues with stress. My body basically doesn’t have the right balance to deal with stressful situations. So when I get into an overloaded stress situation my body shuts down. Which is what happened in late February.

It was terrifying that a job I though was my dream career was basically shutting down my body. Eventually I went to the doctor, after suffering three panic attacks in a month, and was put on anxiety medicine.

The decision to quit at first had a lot to do with my physical health. I was told by countless friends that I couldn’t let a job basically destroy my health. They were right, but I couldn’t admit to myself that I wasn’t able to handle this balancing act.

I felt inadequate, so rather than listening to my body I kept pushing on.

I was so stressed out that I wasn’t remembering to eat. I was exhausted all the time and bitter. Not to mention just plain mean.

I worked late, and resented my job for it. It was impossible to meet the amount of deadlines I was dealing with while still thinking about my health.

I don’t know what woke me up, but I finally realized I didn’t want to live like this. I didn’t want to put my health on the back burner and do something because “it was supposed” to be my dream job.

Sometimes dream jobs don’t work out the way we want them to, and that’s okay. 

When I started this job it had all the elements I’d always wanted, building strategies, dealing with multiple clients, and surrounded by an amazing work environment. But that’s not exactly what it ended up being for my actual position.

So I quit with a months notice to smooth over transitions. I quit with no job offer because that’s what I needed to do, because when we finally see what a job does to us it’s important to fix all of the wrongs before moving on.

And the first wrong I’m fixing is to start putting my health first.

Do Good Pictures Make for Good posts?

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Keep your hand raised for better content and less pictures. That's what I thought. Photo credit: Reuters

Keep your hand raised for better content and less pictures. That’s what I thought. Photo credit: Reuters

It kills me that many people rely heavily on visual design rather than actual content. With the increase of bloggers, has content taking a turn for the worse? 

The top rated blogs continue to say “good pictures make for good posts,” “create more sharable content with better images”…but shouldn’t we be more concerned about what the content is actually saying, rather than the bonus of having pretty pictures embedded between words.

While I can continue to avoid the wrath of images, I can’t ignore the inevitable.  Images are taking over.

Don’t believe me? Look at what the popular social networks consist of: Instagram? Pinterest? YouTube? Even Facebook mainly consists of LOLcats, meme’s, and annoying pictures your relatives continue to flood your home feed with. We live in a visual world because we’ve all become too lazy to actually read. 

Well, maybe that’s not the entire truth. Maybe I’m just a nerd who is tired of the constant streaming images and who prefers to read informative and fun content more than flipping through a sea of gifs.

Then again, I’m not the majority of people on the Internet. Since the majority decides the turn we will be taking, we should give them what they want.

Okay, so what can we recap?

  • You should have photos on your blog.
  • You need better photos on your blog.
  • You should have original photos on your blog.
  • They shouldn’t suck.

You should also have good content, because there are still people like me who prefer to read. So for our sake, please don’t skimp on the content just to share your photo. That’s what Flickr is for.