Monthly Archives: December 2011

Nanny Diaries: Stage five clinger

Posted on by

2

When you are putting a baby to bed it’s important to be there just enough so it knows that everything is okay, but still be able to pull away in order to make your exit.

Being a nanny is a lot like this.

You have to spend all of this time with this little creature (I’m calling him creature because his cries  do not sound human) and know that at the end of the day it’s just a job.

Yes, you may be with him/her for a few birthdays, keep in touch with the family afterwards, be there for a couple of milestones…but at the end of the day you go home and the parents reap all of the benefits.

Nannying is basically renting a baby, except you get paid. You put all of this effort into bettering something you don’t keep. (Please note I am not saying I want a baby to keep!) It’s sometimes hard to to see the benefits, or even feel like you’re bettering yourself.

As much as I love this little monster, I can’t help but feel there is something more productive I could be doing. It’s fun to write about the annoyances, concerns and major milestones…but how is it going to help me in the end. And, as time goes on saying goodbye will just be more difficult…I already refer to him as my baby (yes I know I have a problem…but for now you can just suck it).

So, I hate to say it…but I think I’m the clinger in our relationship. Although he does still monkey grip my arms every time I try to leave.

A long list of excuses never got me anywhere

Posted on by

0

Last Day

I suck, I haven’t been writing here as much as I should. I’ve been devoting my time to my new startup, the baby (not my baby!), The College Crush, and College Candy. I know it doesn’t seem like a lot but when you factor in a new relationship… time stops making sense.

My orignal plan for this article was to talk about ways to get rid of your excuses and prioritize your life. In the process I just came up with more excuses. But I’m going to continue on with it anyway…

I’ve been trying to live my life by doing what makes me happy. Living in Brockton and working as a nanny does not. Being in Massachusetts in fact makes me very unhappy. But leaving my friends and family would also make me unhappy. So I’ve been prioritizing to leave, secretly.

You see at the top of my list is find another job, the second one is a find a place to live, and about 20 spots down is tell friends, family and employer. Conflict is never something I was good at.

It all seemed like a great idea, secretly plotting knowing nothing would come of it. Except, something has. In fact we’re flying down this weekend to look at two places.

Side note, yes I said we’re. But if I tell you who we’re is you’ll just lecture me like everyone else has already. And I can guarantee I have already heard what you are going to say. So thank you for the concern, yes I have thought about it. No but really I have, stop worrying. No I will not wait longer. Okay, fine, be that way! Walk away when we are in the middle of a post.

Okay back.

I think that sometimes you just know when something is right, and with everything falling into place, it seems like the perfect moment to move. The fact that I have two siblings getting married to distract my parents from what is happening has nothing to do with it.

Anyway, to get to my round about point, everyone makes excuses. We tend to make them when we are scared of the reaction that will come from loved ones, when we are lazy or when we simply don’t want to do it. But making that long list of excuses isn’t going to stop you from still having to do that item on your check list. It’s only going to slow you down.

So, stop making excuses and like Nike says Just do it (although don’t take it the way Tiger’s did).