Lets get down to it, I online date. I’ve used: okcupid, Plenty of Fish (super classy), how about we, nerve, and I think I even tried J-date once (I’m not jewish)…lets just put it this way – I’ve been through the wringer.
And when you’re juggling so many profiles it’s hard to see any kind of future relationship emerge, I know…I’ve been there. After all, the reason we’re on these sites is to find a relationship, right? …just me? Then, there is that feeling of pure horror, when after the tenth first date your hopes of finding mr. right start to damper, and your standards start to dip lower. So…you settle. You figure “Hey, I’ll take what I can get.”
Home girl, don’t settle! Lets walk through the three main sections of online dating together, we will get you through this!
Online dating gives you a chance to meet people you never would normally talk to, or haphazardly run into at a cafe. It lets you screen potential people (either through googling searches, or just getting a chance to talk to them in general), and actually get a baseline going before meeting up somewhere. Who knows, maybe mr. right will turn out to be someone just living a few blocks away…but works the night shift so you never got a chance to run into him.
Anything online is sketchy. And when actually meeting these people offline, it gets even scarier. You don’t know who they are, for all you know it’s the Craigslist killer using some random Facebook profile picture he took off of the Internet. So, you need to be smart! Never, under any circumstances, let him(or her) pick you up. Go there separately. Meet in public, and do not (I repeat) DO NOT go home with them. Just because they seem great after that initial meeting does not mean they are safe. Keep it public for a while before heading underground, better to be safe than sorry.
The Just Plain Ugly:
This is going to sound harsh but, there are some really ugly people out there. And they will put profile pictures highlighting their best feature, why wouldn’t you show off your best stuff? Remember, not everyone will look like their picture. Be prepared to have to deal with some awkward conversations:
“So what do you think?”
“Um, how long ago was that picture taken…you look really…different?”
“A few years ago, I’ve packed on the pounds since then.”
“And had a face transplant?”
No matter what route you take, just be sure to have fun and enjoy the date. Even if you meet the worlds worst person, just think of it as another great story to tell your BFF’s later that night (over some Ben and Jerry’s).