I understand this is the 21st century, and as a woman I’m supposed to feel empowered to ask a guy out. That, due to the overwhelming amounts of bra’s the were burned in the 70′s I should want to make the first move. But uh, yeah…I’m not really feeling it.
To quote one of my amazingly funny friends: “For every hair I wax, it’s another dollar I want you to spend .” This came out in one of her comedy shows while talking about how she used to feel bad when guys paid for dinner, that she was all about equality. Then after getting her first Brazilian decided that there was no gender equality situation great enough for her to feel guilty about accepting a free dinner.
This is why I’m all set with being the one to move the first mountain, and frankly lady friends you should be too.
Guys need to stand up and say it, not just putt around whatever they’re trying to get across. This goes both ways too.
If I’m not interested in a guy you know what I do, I tell them (in a nice way of course, but straightforward). You know what guys do, they don’t answer your texts, they stop calling..and while yes this is a clear hint- wouldn’t it be just as easy to say “hey while it was really fun getting to know you I’m just not feeling the ‘spark.’ best of luck on your dating adventures!” Clear, easy, and to the point!
I guarantee you girls will appreciate the honesty, or at least a version of the honesty…no girl needs to hear “thought you were cuter last night at the bar, I’d rather chew my arm off then be seen with you in public again.”
Okay, so we got this guys? Stop being so darn allusive with your damn game playing. No one likes your mind games, and I promise you won’t be scoring any “pie” with them either.