5 Rules for Being Unemployed


unemployedSo I’m currently unemployed and I’ve found that going from a very structured day to one where I can go horse back riding at noon is difficult to adjust to. I’m aware I’m not alone in this current transition to bleeding money while waiting for something that will re-passionize me to come along (I don’t think that’s a word but I’m going with it.)

Since we’re on this journey together I decided to come with a few simple rules that we should all start following – myself included.

1. Make your bed every morning - it’s important to still have a sense of “this is the day I’m not going to go back to sleep after I’m done walking the dog.” So when you get up, get up for the day. Take a shower, make your bed, go about life as you normally would if you were employed.

2. Go outside at least twice a day - It’s easy to stay inside, wistfully wasting away while watching countless episodes of Criminal Minds. But, instead of lulling yourself to an oreo coma get up off your butt and head outside. Some study said even 20 minutes outside will boost your mood (maybe even strike you with some inspiration).

3. Have a schedule - It’s important to create routine when you have none. Try splitting up your day into segments. This is how I did mine (luckily I have a dog to help divide my time): Get up, make bed, walk the dog, apply to jobs, have lunch, walk the dog, write, walk alone, get dog, walk the dog (maybe even talk to people), eat dinner – the night is when I’m least routine, but by then it’s 7 and Big Bang Theory is on.)

4. If you feel sad or discourage talk about it - It’s not fun being on the other side of the tracks (well maybe the first week or two it is) and it’s okay to be sad – just remember you’re not alone. Talk to someone about it, join a discussion board if none of your friends have felt this way. Just remember that it takes a while to find a solid job that you will enjoy, and that it is okay.

5. Don’t settle - you’re unemployed because your last job didn’t work out (or for other reasons) so instead of rushing into the first thing that pays it’s okay to wait it out. Find something you can be passionate about, something that will challenge you, and let you grow. In my next job I’m looking for a place that has those three things. I want to be jazzed about the job just by reading the description – luckily I’ve found a few of those already!

Remember to not freak out, enjoy this time to figure out what you want to do next, and breathe. Chances are this free time will fly by, so take advantage of it while you have it.

I Quit My Dream Job


I quit what I thought was my dream job yesterday.

After struggling for a month and a half to force myself to love both the highs and lows I decided to leave. With a heavy heart I wrote my brief resignation letter and waited until 4:30pm to discuss with my director the next steps moving forward.

It’s not a decision I made lightly. I had been in talks with him since March to find a different place within the company, something that involved more creative duties. But alas (yes I just wrote alas) there was nothing that fit my needs and theirs.

After a job proposal, an internal interview, and over a month and a half since admitting to both myself and the company that I wasn’t happy my journey here is finally over.

I’ve avoided writing about my struggles with this company for a while, but I think it’s important to fully address it now.

As I’ve mentioned in the past I have issues with stress. My body basically doesn’t have the right balance to deal with stressful situations. So when I get into an overloaded stress situation my body shuts down. Which is what happened in late February.

It was terrifying that a job I though was my dream career was basically shutting down my body. Eventually I went to the doctor, after suffering three panic attacks in a month, and was put on anxiety medicine.

The decision to quit at first had a lot to do with my physical health. I was told by countless friends that I couldn’t let a job basically destroy my health. They were right, but I couldn’t admit to myself that I wasn’t able to handle this balancing act.

I felt inadequate, so rather than listening to my body I kept pushing on.

I was so stressed out that I wasn’t remembering to eat. I was exhausted all the time and bitter. Not to mention just plain mean.

I worked late, and resented my job for it. It was impossible to meet the amount of deadlines I was dealing with while still thinking about my health.

I don’t know what woke me up, but I finally realized I didn’t want to live like this. I didn’t want to put my health on the back burner and do something because “it was supposed” to be my dream job.

Sometimes dream jobs don’t work out the way we want them to, and that’s okay. 

When I started this job it had all the elements I’d always wanted, building strategies, dealing with multiple clients, and surrounded by an amazing work environment. But that’s not exactly what it ended up being for my actual position.

So I quit with a months notice to smooth over transitions. I quit with no job offer because that’s what I needed to do, because when we finally see what a job does to us it’s important to fix all of the wrongs before moving on.

And the first wrong I’m fixing is to start putting my health first.

Nanny Diaries: Can an exorcism be performed on a baby?

I had no idea how much babies can spit up in an hour when I first applied for this position. Not only can they spit up at least 10 times in one hour, they will, also sometimes you get a projectile spit up. Sometimes landing up your sleeve. yes I said up not on.

If there is one thing I can not handle it’s white, sticky. lumpy goo coming out of someone’s mouth. Oh please, get your head out of the gutter.  Basically anything that is coming up from ones stomach, I’m against.  So you can imagine my delight to find out how often it occurs on a regular basis.

My first thought was, clearly this baby is possessed. I mean there are even other signs, it’s not like I would make this stuff up…

The signs:

1. Projectile vomit

2. skin pealing in hair-line

3.Can turn head all the way around (well maybe not completely, but I’m sure if he could control his neck then yes, absolutely).

So you can understand my concern. Instead of watching Jabba’s offspring I’m stuck with satan in baby form.

I’m also positive that he controls the washing machine, as it goes off whenever he starts to cry…a mere coincidence? I think not. There are no coincidences in exorcisms.

And that, my loyal readers, is why I’m posing this question to you…and if you do know someone who can perform them get in touch (soon!). Stay tuned for next week: “Nanny Diaries: Baby Talk”